Mention: 31 Days of Victory by Scott Reece
Another adventure of Michael The Traveling Trucker, say’s “Chronos Mentality “is a reality for most of us. Chronos is measured by clocks, calendars, schedules, and a multitude of appointments. The Greek word “kairos” means the opportune moments. Chronos requires discipline and punctuality. Kairos requires discipline and discernment or spiritual sensitivity, In actuality, we need both. A healthy balance in life allows for a Chronos structure, in which the kairos movements can be fulfilled. Life is not about sitting around waiting for the perfect moment, but listening with a sensitive and obedient ear and having the willingness to respond with a heart that pursues the passions of God at every moment.
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My world for the last few days has been at the mercy of other people. Being a driver, I deal with different people and their job functions. A word altercation with a security guard has banned me from a location I deliver to. This was 3 weeks ago and disrupted my weekly schedule. Instead of being home on Friday, I got home Saturday afternoon. I normally leave on Monday for my 1st weekly delivery, but this week I finish my load on Monday and leave on Tuesday. This costs me money. I like my schedule, I like my money. I don’t like either of these being altered.
How many of you have had your life disrupted by outside forces? In my case, it was the 20-year-old security guard who was wrong, by not knowing her job. Even her supervisor came down and saw that I was in the right place with the right PO number. She complained higher up the ladder which escalated way out of control. Now my boss and customer we deliver for are trying to have me reinstated. This takes time. What I learned is sometimes it’s better to say nothing and ask for help higher up at the start.
Being online marketers, gives us a lot more power in dealing with people. If I don’t like working with someone, I don’t have to. Here are some tips dealing with the trouble makers, whiners and complainers.
Do not react– The best reaction towards a troublemaker is no reaction at all. When they realize that no one is paying attention to them, the trouble-making may stop. However, even if the troublemaker turns more aggressive, you don’t have to react to his actions. Stay calm and don’t give any emotional responses as you will only end up fueling his/ her negative energy.
How to deal with whiners-Whiners are another category of troublemakers. We all whine and complain a little about some things in life. However, if the whining goes beyond a certain limit, it can become unbearable and leave you emotionally drained.
Be compassionate– Don’t try to be sarcastic or give any solution to their problems; all they need is a little empathy and someone to listen to their woes. Even if they are complaining about things which seem trivial to you, remember that for them it might be a huge problem. You need to be very patient through all this as it may take some time for the whining to stop or even reduce.
Know what not to say-Cheering up whiners does not work at all, so refrain yourself from saying things like Cheer up, Time heals all wounds. Also, don’t ever think of suggesting solutions to his/her problems; the whiner is not asking for a solution.
Here is the best thing you can do. Be polite and wait. In my case, I should have used these techniques, but being a hot-head got me into playing a game their way. Yes, I’m talking to myself. I need to hear this as much as anyone. My wife is always telling me to learn from my mistakes. I will definitely take her up on this. Thank you, sweetie.
My mentor Janet, deals with people very politely. She is the word decorum. Business with Janet and the CLB Learning team, makes life a whole lot smoother for this kid.
MSF 500 is another learning structure. Rob, my coach has a different approach. He is a straight shooter. Let’s people know the rules upfront. Follow the rules, or out you go. Rob also has integrity, willing to listen, make recommendations and set you on the right path.
Jon Olson and Blain Jones from –Click Track Profit, Are great teachers. Their video section brings all aspects of the business to life. I have been challenged by Blain. He helped me see things from a different view. It was great.
I hope you get a lot from this, as I know, I did writing it. Taking time to really see those around you, will bring you a sense of PEACE. Stay the course, work your business and let’s travel the WORLD.
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LOVE love love this post, it’s so important to understand our situations and use as much diplomacy as possible and sometimes, lessons are learned 🙂
Great article Michael. Conflict is part of life, but our path and length of the journey through gives us choices. Choose wisely.
Thank you for this great post Michael! I learned at a very early age that if you do not have something good to say it is better to say nothing at all. In all situations good or bad it is best to ask God for guidance in what we think, say, and do. I’m a trucker too but stay local and go home every night to my lovely wife Elaine.